Planning for the Tea Ceremony

Mom bought a tea set for our Tea Ceremony. So, we did not have to worry about looking for one. On the morning of our wedding day, Sze had to leave his house by 9am and depart from my house around 11am after all the door games, prayers and Tea Ceremony.

My elder sis, Fiona, planned for the food to be served that morning to welcome our guests and, the groom and his convoy. She was also in-charge of serving the tea and safekeeping our Angpows during the Tea Ceremony, together with the help of Naomi, my other sis.

In the olden days, the bride was not allowed to return home within the first 3 days after leaving. However, to make life more practical nowadays, many couples would be driven 3 times around the house to symbolize those 3 days so that the bride could come home anytime for convenience sake and so that all the ceremonies can be completed on the same day itself. Upon completing the 3-round trip, the couple would then have a meal with the bride’s family to symbolize their return home for a visit.

After undergoing all the ceremonies at the bride’s house, the same tea set and sweet Longan Tea would be passed on to the groom’s convoy to bring back for his family’s Tea Ceremony.


Upon reaching home, Sze arranged for his cousins, Khoon Leng and May May, to help serve the tea and safekeep the Angpows during the Tea Ceremony. After that, the ceremonies would proceed with Khoon Leng’s little son Breaking Open the Potty, followed by a buffet lunch.

More pictures of the Tea Ceremonies and Breaking Open the Potty, as well as a video clip, can be viewed in our:
- Photo Gallery: Traditional Ceremonies
- Video Gallery: Opening The Car Door & Breaking Open The Potty